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05-01-2007, 03:56 PM
i hate to ask something like this, but its causing my Mom
a great amount of stress.
anybody know who i should call to let the NAVY know that
my Father has passed on? they need to transfer his benifits into
my Moms name and accounts.
if anyone can think of other people i should contact,
or paperwork i should look for, please let me know!
im in such a thick mental fog right now, this is all i can think of
past calling family and finding Dads DD-214 so he can have
the Military send-off he deserves. they will play taps,
and preform a flag folding, but he wont get his 4 gun salute.
after 911, as his plot is next to the Niagara Falls power station
and its resivoir, and next to a bridge from Canada,
no gunfire is allowed. (as-per the funeral home director)
heres what i got so far, as to people/institutations i need to contact:
> Shift Colors.
(a Navy magazine for retired personel, to announce his passing)
they might be able to help me get the right phone numbers, etc.
its the only contact information my Dad left us.
> the VA hospital in Buffalo?
not sure who to talk to there tho?
ill need a whole leagal pad just to cover the phone numbers
they pass around? i got to try it tho...
> my Dads auto insurance.
it needs to go on my Moms name now.
i dont know WTF is going to happen here?
> the bank.
my Mom wants to put me in place of my Dads name in thier
joint checking account. this is so i can sign checks to pay her bills.
i think the bank can fix this, with an in-person(s) visit.
(on a side note, Dad didnt tell Mom or me anything about "the finances",
he took care of all of that by himself, and when he passed so very quickly, he left my Mom in a very difficult situation. she dosnt know who to call, or what to do. dont be like my Dad, and have a "Living-Will-Kit" sitting
on your desk collecting dust. you have to fill that stuff out,
that way, your loved ones can carry-out your last wishes the way you wanted it done, and in my case, so Mom knows who to contact.)
its morbid. its terrible. but it needs to be done, when your still alive.
> the florist,
i want to get Dad a nice wreath, perhaps Navy themed?
hes going in the dirt Friday at 1PM, so i have to DT this effort.
> his/her life insurance/paperwork???
i have no idea where its at, or what to do with it! (see BANK statement)
damn guys, im so lost right now, its not funny. life is a total blur,
its like everything is moving in slow-motion to me? (shock?)
if you can tell me more about any and everything i can do to
secure my Moms future from my Dads Navy pension/benifets
please let me know ASAP!
and if you know about these things, tell me how to find out about
my Dads assets. my Mom is going to need that info.
were not even sure what the hospital bill is going to be,
because we dont know what insurance Dad had covering him?
he never told us? it could wipe Mom out!?
d
PS: let me know, ASAP!
a great amount of stress.
anybody know who i should call to let the NAVY know that
my Father has passed on? they need to transfer his benifits into
my Moms name and accounts.
if anyone can think of other people i should contact,
or paperwork i should look for, please let me know!
im in such a thick mental fog right now, this is all i can think of
past calling family and finding Dads DD-214 so he can have
the Military send-off he deserves. they will play taps,
and preform a flag folding, but he wont get his 4 gun salute.
after 911, as his plot is next to the Niagara Falls power station
and its resivoir, and next to a bridge from Canada,
no gunfire is allowed. (as-per the funeral home director)
heres what i got so far, as to people/institutations i need to contact:
> Shift Colors.
(a Navy magazine for retired personel, to announce his passing)
they might be able to help me get the right phone numbers, etc.
its the only contact information my Dad left us.
> the VA hospital in Buffalo?
not sure who to talk to there tho?
ill need a whole leagal pad just to cover the phone numbers
they pass around? i got to try it tho...
> my Dads auto insurance.
it needs to go on my Moms name now.
i dont know WTF is going to happen here?
> the bank.
my Mom wants to put me in place of my Dads name in thier
joint checking account. this is so i can sign checks to pay her bills.
i think the bank can fix this, with an in-person(s) visit.
(on a side note, Dad didnt tell Mom or me anything about "the finances",
he took care of all of that by himself, and when he passed so very quickly, he left my Mom in a very difficult situation. she dosnt know who to call, or what to do. dont be like my Dad, and have a "Living-Will-Kit" sitting
on your desk collecting dust. you have to fill that stuff out,
that way, your loved ones can carry-out your last wishes the way you wanted it done, and in my case, so Mom knows who to contact.)
its morbid. its terrible. but it needs to be done, when your still alive.
> the florist,
i want to get Dad a nice wreath, perhaps Navy themed?
hes going in the dirt Friday at 1PM, so i have to DT this effort.
> his/her life insurance/paperwork???
i have no idea where its at, or what to do with it! (see BANK statement)
damn guys, im so lost right now, its not funny. life is a total blur,
its like everything is moving in slow-motion to me? (shock?)
if you can tell me more about any and everything i can do to
secure my Moms future from my Dads Navy pension/benifets
please let me know ASAP!
and if you know about these things, tell me how to find out about
my Dads assets. my Mom is going to need that info.
were not even sure what the hospital bill is going to be,
because we dont know what insurance Dad had covering him?
he never told us? it could wipe Mom out!?
d
PS: let me know, ASAP!